First Blind Date in Korea

A couple of weeks ago I met my father and a few of his friends for some drinks and 한우 (Hanu – Korean beef). And he mentioned that he was worried about me, and I need a woman to set me straight and all that other dad stuff, haha. But my father’s friend’s son’s wife (whew, got it!) overheard and said she had someone in mind for me, another teacher at the junior high school she teaches at. So the past few weeks I’ve been trying to setup a 소개팅 (sogaeting – blind date) with this Math teacher, and we finally set one up for this coming Saturday.

Concerns

Marriage? – Come’on now…
Blind dates setup via a family connection (however loose) tend to be more on the serious side, kind of like dating for marriage. But come’on now, that’s a lot of pressure! I don’t want this hanging over my head like I’m looking for my baby’s mama, and I sure hope she aiin’t looking for a baby daddy either!

Drinks or Coffee
I’ve mentioned before that I’m no casanova, but alcohol is the liquid lubricant for all awkward social situations so I prefer to get drinks whenever out on a date . Hope she know’s this equation:  inebriation > caffeination

Paying
I’m hoping it’s going to be the standard when it comes to paying: guy pays for meal, girl for drinks. If it doesn’t happen this way, it sets a bad precedent for future dates, and my wallet will be hating this ever happened in the first place.

I’m not nervous for this because I have no expectations. The person who hooked this up said she looks like Choi Jiwoo (최지우 – ala Stairway to Heaven, and Winter Sonata). But there’s no way I can trust that. Just kind of going through with it and hoping it’ll be fun. Or at the least, I hope I get a good story out of this!

Update will come 🙂

5 thoughts on “First Blind Date in Korea

  1. Tommy Pruett says:

    Hey Keith,
    May I offer a few thoughts for consideration, since I do not give advice? In my view, a man is incomplete without a woman. Men and women were designed to complement and complete each other. Men are hard-wired to think logically, and women were gifted with intuition, and tend to be steered by their emotions. Together, they give and take, and with the right amount of cooperation, they can see each other through any trial. It has been my observation however, that a woman who is very good at math, (itself a form of pure logic) makes a very compatible companion. They understand men’s point of view more easily, and tend to lean a little less on their own emotions, and think more logically, while retaining their intuition and emotional compass.
    Further, since I am a firm believer that the best relationships are built on friendship, my suggestion to you would be to approach this blind date as if it were a business meeting with a potential business partner. A marriage is a partnership after all, so be prepared to be yourself with this lady. Be polite, but open and honest. Straightforwardness to a woman, when seasoned with gentlemanly politeness, without being overly noble, will always be well received by a lady. A false fronted person is a turnoff, from either gender. Hopefully, she will present the same form of honesty, and you will at the very least have made a new friend. Approaching this meeting with no expectations, other than those you have for yourself, is a good idea. It will insure that you present your true self to this lady, rather than adjusting your deportment to elicit a calculated response. I am hoping that your meeting goes well.

    Be Blessed This Day,
    Tommy

    • Hahaha, yea I’m just kind of whatever about the whole thing. Kind of HAVE to do it cause of this 5 degrees of separation from my dad. Will let you know how it turns out!

  2. Shannon says:

    (a late comment) I hope your date was a good experience. If it was not, I guess we can get over anyone. You’ve said you weren’t nervous so I don’t think you will have any problems with it not being the perfect date. But I hope it was good. I don’t really know what to comment about it XD

  3. reading your post i remember “beginner lesson- i want to talk about it”
    so you tend not to get married?

    i always think that ‘if i let the man paid the bill, i help him save his face’ 😀
    that’s for dating not yet in a relationship. if he become ‘namjachingu’, i dont care who pay it

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