Korean Girls Like to Meet “Naturally” (Or I Think)

This happened not too long ago.

There was this intern at my place of work last year. And I’m pretty sure she was interested in me. I specifically remember on the last day of her internship, she gave me the look. (You know what look I’m talking about.) And although I was always attracted to her, I never really did anything because I was still recovering from my breakup.

But this year, I’m pretty much ok now, and I’m looking to date. So when she visited our office a few weeks ago, I started to think about her again. Cute girl, really nice, smart. Good stuff, you know? I never had her number, and I didn’t even know if she was single or not. So I asked her former supervisor and my co-worker what was up with her. She said she was single, and I thought “nice!” I told my coworker to tell her straight up that I asked if she was single and if I could get her number.

Wrong move. I realized this before this incident, but Korean girls aren’t so good with direct guys. Unless they’re really into you, being too direct won’t work. I may be wrong (and please tell me if I am), but I think Korean girls are more into meeting “naturally” or “comfortably” as opposed to meeting for a specific purpose (because a guy is interested).

What I mean is this: If I just said: “let’s all get drinks together,” my chances of getting her number in person would have been much better than “Hey I’m interested in you. Can I get your number?” It’s a little too direct for Korean girls. This would have been more comfortable, and of  course, comfort is more important. Well at least that’s what I think. Again, if I’m wrong, please let me know!

But I mean, she gave me the look before, and she’s single, so why the heck not???

14 thoughts on “Korean Girls Like to Meet “Naturally” (Or I Think)

  1. Young says:

    Dude. I think it really depends on the person and how she interprets the meaning of “interest”.. But anyways, way to go Keith!

  2. Soo says:

    You could just move back to New York and not have to switch up your game :)

    Otherwise, you could pull the “how crazy is it that I bump into you on the street as it starts to pour rain out of nowhere and I happen to be carrying an umbrella so I can walk you home” maneuver.

  3. If she is a Lady, she will respond to a different set of attractions. Ladies appreciate when a man shows respect to elders, is friendly with children (on their level), and courteous to all others. If you make those things your personal standards, when ladies of good caliber observe your interactions with others, they will then seek you out. One’s appearance, (looks) are an ever changing image. Appearance can catch someone’s eye, but it is your character that truly matters to a lady, and should also matter to you. If she is worth getting to know better, she will be interested in your demeanor, more than your outward image. Keep your standards high in both your actions and your choices. Being a servant to all is the greatest goal to have, and the most rewarding, in ways you wouldn’t imagine. . . .

  4. AL PAL says:

    If you know what you want, get it. Nothing more attractive than a guy who is assertive and claims what he wants. But then again, I’m not a fob. I guess at the end of the day, even if she doesn’t like aggression, you’ll have her attention and she’ll think about you.

  5. koreanwikiproject says:

    One reason I disagree with this is the way a lot of girls get married, 소개팅 or “선.” Doesn’t get more unnatural than that, it’s a forced meeting.

    The closer a girl is to their 30′s the more 소개팅 too.

    Anyway best of luck, don’t give up!

  6. Chris de Vera says:

    I agree with what @koreanwikiproject says but at the same time you make sense too. Korean girls seem so complicated =)) Joining 소개팅 just shows how much they want to find a guy but at the same time I think they don’t want to look too…available or willing?

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